When I was young, women were often told if they want to get ahead they need to act like men. Is this still true? Was it ever true? And what the heck does “acting like a man” really mean?
First of all, I think we all need to be ourselves more than ever. But business can be slow to catch up with the real world. And, as a result, they help perpetuate a model of an unreal world that actually doesn’t serve anyone well — least of all the business. IMHO.
“Pleasantly aggressive.” Eye of the beholder?
As I was finishing grad school many moons ago, I interviewed with an SVP of a major bank. He called me “pleasantly aggressive.” And they made an offer that I accepted. I remember that vividly because much of the time that’s worked pretty well for me.
Although, when pushed up against a wall, I’ve also found that strong direct confrontation with no sign of give, while leaving room for the person to emerge with their dignity, works well too. My way of shooting a moose — but still letting it live.
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