Ah … holiday time. A time when we’re all supposed to be excited and happy and filled with good ole holiday spirit … whatever our respective holidays may be. But we know that’s not so easy. In fact, I’m betting even the most spirit-filled of you have moments where joy-full is replaced by stress-full. Or just not feeling it the way you think you should.
Holiday spirit: Just grin & bear it?
I’m not a therapist, so I’m not going to try to tell you what to do if your own holiday spirit feel more grrr than cheer. Holiday parties you don’t always want to attend. Incessant music greeting you wherever you go.
Endless online ads tempting you to buy way more than you can afford — for things you don’t especially need. And just all the smiling faces wishing you happy holidays, while you may be thinking “Enough already!”
OK. I admit none of this bothers me too much anymore. And there are still holiday traditions I enjoy. I make sure to watch A Christmas Story at least once or twice. And Elf. Topping it all off with some It’s a Wonderful Life.
But I’ve also learned how to politely say “no” to invitations and to not feel pressured to spend more on gifts than I can afford. And not to feel pressured to give presents to everyone if I’m only giving out of obligation or guilt.
Secret Santa & office parties oh my!
But then there are the office pressures for those of you who do work in an office. Or for a company that makes joyful participation an unspoken must. How do you handle all that?
While I work for myself now, I had many times when I attended parties I wasn’t really up for. Introvert that I am, required merriment was never my thing. So I made a point of showing up and doing my best. But not forcing myself beyond what was basically comfortable, even if some discomfort was involved. 🙂
And when it came to Secret Santa gifts, I gave myself permission to first see if I could find out what the person might like, but not overstress it. If I had to bear the ‘shame” of being a gift card giver, so be it. Just make sure it’s at least an attractive card from a place with ample choices.
What about your holiday spirit???
I’d love to hear from readers out there about your ways of dealing with holiday work pressures. Or any holiday stress you may be feeling. Personal stories welcome!
While it is a lovely thing to be generous, giving yourself the gift of less stress is a bold and caring choice — one that also ripples out to everyone who has to be around you!
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