Just recently I heard someone put down a woman’s intelligence because she’s “only a waitress.” And she did it so matter-of-factly. As if the woman must be inferior because of how she makes a living. It’s tough being judged by your job. And unfortunately all too often that’s how the world sees you.
Even people who have known you for a while might be thinking “too bad she never made anything of herself.” Not that they’d tell you that to your face. But people do base their opinions on all kinds of external factors, including job and marital status and, of course, appearance. I call that linear thinking.
Shocking thing a friend once said to me
After the horrible September 11 attacks, I was speaking with a friend. She had lost a cousin who worked in the World Trade Center. “Well, it wasn’t that much of a loss,” my friend told me. “Not only did he have no wife or children, but he was only a low-level accountant.”
I was so shocked I didn’t know how to respond. At the time, I probably just let it go. It wasn’t the first time she came out with an opinion based on generalized labels. But it did get me thinking.
So many people are passed over or dismissed without looking at their real impact on this earth, well beyond mere job title. We affect the world in so many ways, and value is not limited to a few surface labels.